This is a sensitive issue. Aside from comments like "That's cute, but men can't be raped", "He probably enjoyed it. Men always enjoy sex." and "How do you get an erection if you're not aroused?", there is a general disregard for male victims - both from other men and women. I'll talk about why later, but let's first look at the statistics.
Look at the National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence survey conducted by CDC, and in bold letters it's written that nearly 1 in 5 women and 1 in 71 men have been raped in their lifetimes. But what's interesting is how they define "Rape". Apparently, being "forced to penetrate" is not considered as rape. So the only way a man can be "raped" is by oral or anal penetration - which obviously occurs less than females getting forcefully penetrated, because anal/penetration is not the usual way for man to have sex - unless of course if the man in question is gay. CDC is not the only organization to have a sexist definition of rape. It's was only last year that the FBI recognized that men can also be raped by women.
Comparing the last 12 month's data in 2010, 1,267,000 men were made forced to penetrate compared to the total of 1,270,000 women who were either attempted/complete rape (which also includes sex under the influence of drugs -coerced or consensual). Considering the demographics of the United States (151 million men and 178 million women), and considering the gender of the perpetrator, 0.66% of men are likely to be raped by a woman and 0.69% of women are likely to be raped by a man. Compare that to the numbers you see in television and other media! By only showing sexual violence against women and defining rape as something that only happens to women, feminists are creating a culture of benevolent sexism (ie women are fragile and therefore need protection). When in reality, men are equally prone to sexual coercion. This in turn leads to victim blaming and eventually hostile sexism towards women. So essentially, feminists are creating an adverse environment for women by hiding the rape statistics of male victims.
And male rape is not confined to the United States. A cross-cultural study that included 7,667 participants from 38 sites around the globe including China, Europe, Australia and Canada report that female-on-male sexual coercion (2.1%) is higher than male-on-female sexual coercion (1.6%). (The lifetime statistics that CDC reports are questionable for comparison reasons between men and women because it asks the question "have you ever been raped?" rather than how many people will get raped in their entire lifetimes. For men, as they grow older and as their sexual value increase, it is expected that sexual coercion will occur more frequently.) But this is not even considering prison-rape, which is highly prevalent in the United States. 94% of sexually abused youth incorrectional facilities reported being abused by female staff. Among inmates reporting staff sexual misconduct, ~ 65% reported a female aggressor.
So the statistics speak for themselves. Not only is the rape of men real, it's swept under the rug and not considered a priority when it comes to gender politics. Why? The answer to this question probably lies in the way we treat gender identities. I like to call this the Red Riding Hood syndrome. Men getting raped (or even being vulnerable) is not sexy. A man who can't fend for himself or even protect himself has no chance of protecting his wife and children. But for women, being a damsel-in-distress is kind of like a mating call. Hordes of white-knights will stand up to prove their worth and sweep her off her feet. Killing dragons and metaphorical big-bad wolves on their way. So while men who are raped, aren't considered "real men", women who are raped receive undivided attention. Victim-blaming happens to women more often, but it's nothing compared to the social stigma that's associated with a "failed man". At least there is advocacy against victim-blaming, there is no sympathy for men who don't live up to masculinity. Men are the overwhelming majority of rape, but every news article you read, every def-jam poetry session you will hear will be about the rape of women.
And ultimately by writing and speaking about these "men's issues", I automatically devalue myself as a man. At this point, I really don't care. I achieved what I want in life, and I abide to no one. But for others who are aware of these issues, writing and speaking out against the double standards of society is akin to committing social suicide. Both women and men will consider them a sissy. An invalid, who is not worthy of the title of a man.
So, in honor of International Men's day, here's to all the men who can't speak about their troubles. Here's to 80% of suicide victims, here's to 76% of homicide victims, here's to 84% of fathers who loose custody battles over their children, here's to 99% of the soldiers killed in the front-lines, here's to the men who get an average of 2.5 times the sentence of a punishment given to women, here's to the 41% men who are accused of rape that are later found to be false allegations, and finally here's to the countless men who are hated on by false notions of patriarchy - the notion that there is a organization of men out there trying to consciously restrict the rights of women. Remember this the next time you talk about gender. Remember the forgotten sex.